When buying the best sex toys in 2024, all you need to do is ask yourself a simple question: what turns you on? That is the best sex toy for you: one that works with your particular tastes, gets you going, is most compatible with your parts or your partners, and works in combination with other toys (or sex itself). It needs to make the experience completely unforgettable because there's little in life that's more personal than the stuff you like to do in the bedroom.
If you're just getting started, you'll probably find the sex toy market a little intimidating: there's such a large variety of sex toys for women, men, and for couples (or more) that even working out the kind of thing you want to try is tough, let alone finding the top choice in that department.
In this guide, we'll walk you through the broad categories of the best sex toys that are out there for you to enjoy, from Fleshlights to vibrators and beyond. We've also highlighted some of our favourite toys along the way to give you more expert guidance.
Just want sex toys aimed at guys? We have a separate guide to the best sex toys for men and the best sex toys for couples, plus other specialist guides, including best dildo, best vibrator and best condoms. And, as Lovehoney is an expert of all things sex toys, make sure to check out the best Lovehoney deals and use these Lovehoney discount codes for money off your next order.
Best sex toys: Fleshlights
There's no question about it: for most men, the Fleshlight is the best sex toy around. Fleshlight as a brand got its patent 23 years ago, and initially was listed as a 'device for discrete sperm collection'. Since then, the branding has got a whole lot less clinical, and a string of imitators and third-party innovators have appeared on the scene – so much so that the term 'fleshlight' has become the term used for all gadgets of this ilk. You'll find a whole range of options in our best Fleshlights guide.
The idea of a Fleshlight is fairly simple: in general they consist of an outer shell, in which sits a soft, skin-like sleeve with an orifice, usually textured inside, into which you insert a penis. With plenty of lube and a steady hand a Fleshlight offers a sex-like experience, and perhaps even more.
From Fleshlight itself, you can get all kinds of devices; at first they trended towards the more anatomical, and the company's best sellers are still those which emulate actual body parts. But the more experimental Fleshlights are offering an experience all their own, with complex inners, open ends, clear materials and all kinds of other gimmicks... just make sure you have the best lube to hand when you try these toys.
Made by the original and market-leading Fleshlight brand, the Fleshlight Flight Pilot is a slightly smaller and much more discrete spin on the Fleshlight, with a feel all its own. The 6.5 inch sleeve is textured to stimulate the whole penis, and there's a twist base to allow you to experiment with different suction levels.
The Fleshlight Flight Pilot has still got the super-discrete outer and the feel of the inner is softer than before, with its a uniquely textured canal known as Super Skin. Suitable for anyone with a penis, the clear material and a non-anatomical opening means it's more the stuff of your fantasies. Even better, it's waterproof so you can play in the shower and bath and you can experiment even more with a twist base to alter suction levels.
See our Fleshlight Flight Pilot review for more.
With the Ice Lady, Fleshlight is working on the premise that see-through is sexy, so yes, that means you can see everything that's going on while you use it. With a clear view of the action, the Fleshlight Ice Lady is arguably the best Fleshlight for use with a partner.
Similar to the Flight Pilot above, the Ice Lady features crystal SuperSkin for a silky smooth feeling and the inner canal introduces a multitude of different textures to explore. Of course, see-through might not be for everyone and the narrow central section isn't the best placed for some people's anatomy, but our reviewer found that it felt good and upped the levels of excitement by being able to see it in action.
Read our full Fleshlight Ice Lady review for all the details.
Best sex toys: Dildos
Dildos can be a bit intimidating. The classic image of a veiny, massive, dick-shaped whopper lives rent-free in many of our heads, and while that particular variety of toy has not gone away, there are plenty of alternatives out there to suit all tastes. There are compact, abstract and stylish designs, as well as toys that take size and texture to the extreme (our best dildo guide goes into depth about the different types and who they might work best for).
As with any other toy, it's all about what works for you. Think about the things you've enjoyed in past sexual experiences, and start there in terms of size; consider the thickness and length, too, as well as the texture of the dildo and its material. Something non-porous is a must in order to keep things properly clean – whether that means softer silicone or colder metal is really up to you.
Guys looking to work on prostate stimulation – or girls working on the A-spot – may prefer something smaller and smoother, and while a butt plug (see below) might work for that, there are specific slimmer dildos that will do the trick.
So Divine’s Glorious is reasonably sized at around six-seven inches insertable, and it employs a liquid silicone inner to feel as close as possible to a real penis. The colour might not be realistic, but everything else about this Glorious dildo is designed to mimic the real thing.
It's made from super-soft, flexible silicone with 'real feel technology' that's designed to feel like skin. It's a good size for beginners, and there's a strong suction cup at the base so you can use it hands-free too, including in the shower.
The Exotic Diamond 10 Function Realistic Dildo Vibrator is the best vibrating dildo you can buy today. This dildo with curved shaft, veins and pronounced head ticks multiple boxes as it offers both a realistic feel and vibrating options. It has three speeds and seven settings to see which suits you best, plus it's waterproof so you can use it in the bath or shower.
Measuring in at 6.5 inches in circumference, this dildo might be a bit too much for some, although if you're accustomed to bigger sizes, it should suit. Remember to always use a dildo like this one with plenty of lube.
Best sex toys: Vibrators
A vibrator is not only a dildo that buzzes. Vibrators come in all shapes, sizes, and materials, offering you the opportunity to excite the parts that matter to you, whether that's inside, outside, or anywhere else. There are vibrating butt plugs, dual-purpose Kegel vibrators, specific g-spot vibrators, sonic devices which use moving air – a wide, wide range (you'll find a run-down in our best vibrator guide).
Recent years have seen the shapes of vibrators changing, and they're increasingly smarter, too. Varying vibration patterns add a little spice to proceedings, while connected devices can even work to keep you and a partner active even if you can't be in the same physical location.
While the term 'vibrator' is typically associated with female-focused toys, there are vibrating sex toys that can work very well for men too. Vibrating cock rings are a great example, but prostate massage with an anal vibrator can also be an interesting experience, and many Fleshlight-like devices (and, indeed, some Fleshlights) include small built-in vibrators to enhance the experience even further.
It only takes one to Tango. A perennial favourite in the vibrator world, the We-Vibe Tango gained popularity thanks to its intensity and reliability, and the Tango X offers even more power, a smoother design and improved controls.
Made from body-safe PC ABS thermoplastic, it has eight settings to play with and it can also be used in the bath or shower. It's fully rechargeable and petite and discreet enough that you can take it anywhere with you for on-the-go fun.
You can't go wrong with a LELO toy, and it takes the crown for the best rabbit vibrator with the LELO Soraya Wave. Stylish, chic and technologically advanced, the SLELO Soraya Wave offers three stimulating sensations including clitoral and G-spot stimulation. The LELO Soraya Wave is powered by LELO's WaveMotion technology, meaning the tip of the shaft flexes with a 'come hither' action, which is super stimulating and erotic.
Check out our 5-star Lelo Soraya Wave review for all the details.
Best sex toys: butt plugs
A butt plug is an anal sex toy which does as its name suggests. Butt plugs can be enjoyed by just about anyone, but it doesn't mean they will be enjoyed by everyone. Not everyone likes the way they feel; however, others enjoy the pleasurable feeling of being filled. For men, they can add a little pressure on the prostate, and for women, they can stimulate the internal nerves of the clitoris and G-spot, particularly when employing a vibrating butt plug. Having penetrative sex while a vibrating plug goes to work can work well for both partners.
They're fantastic, as you may already have worked out, for anal sex preparation. This is true both if you're trying to train your anal muscles to relax and contract more reliably in a solo session, and if you're looking to stretch out a little before a session with a partner. Start with a smaller toy, if you're just getting used to the
Do bear in mind that butt plugs absolutely need a good lube and you'll need to be patient; gradual insertion is important, with frequent reapplications of lube, and gentle removal (with more lube) is a must. All toys made for anal play come with a flared base of some kind, so you don't need to worry about them getting lost.
Lovehoney's Butt Tingler is a fantastic choice for beginners. It's small enough at 3.5-inches in circumference and the same amount of insertable length, so it's a good starter toy.
It's smoothly curved, easy to remove and coated in soft silicone, though this does mean you won't be able to use a silicone lube with it. Most excitingly, there are 10 vibration functions on its built-in bullet, which can be removed if you want to stimulate other erogenous zones.
For those with a penis, the LELO Bruno is worth a look. It may be expensive, but it provides both prostate and perineum stimulation, so there's plenty of room to experiment. The LELO Bruno features independent motors so you can vary the amount of attention you're giving each area, so you can pick either or, or use both at the same time, depending on what you're into.
