Best Fleshlight 2023: top options for whatever you're into

Take a look at the best Fleshlights & other toy alternatives to find the right one for you

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Looking for the best Fleshlight in 2023? Whether you're new to the world of sex toys (opens in new tab) and looking for something to get started with, or you're in search of new sensations, our guide to the best Fleshlights has something that'll fit the bill.

Assuming you haven't landed here accidentally, you'll probably already know the kind of thing we're talking about, but for any avoidance of doubt, a Fleshlight refers to a penetrative sex toy designed to be used on a penis. It's a brand name, but, like Hoover and Sellotape, one that has come to represent all toys of that ilk. And it's widely considered to be one of the best sex toys for men (opens in new tab).

Sometimes they're anatomical looking, sometimes they're not. Sometimes they resemble a flashlight (in which case you'd better hope the wrong person doesn't happen upon it in a power cut), sometimes they're something absolutely unique. There's no right or wrong in the Fleshlight world – just what feels best. For more explanation, jump down to the 'what kinds of Fleshlights are there?' section. 

If you're new to Fleshlights, there are plenty of ways to use a Fleshlight (opens in new tab), whether it's to improve staying power, pleasure a partner, or just get yourself off; it's really up to you. Just make sure you heed our guidelines on how to clean a Fleshlight (opens in new tab) (yes, every time). With the majority of the big names in sex toys making their own unique versions, toys are getting better all the time, and there's no better time to get involved. But let's consider a few of your top Fleshlight options first.

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Best Fleshlights 2023 ranking

Best Fleshlight alternatives

Fleshlight is a brand name, but has come to represent male masturbation aids in general. Here's our picks for the best fleshlights (with a small 'f') from different brands but with the same kind of idea.

Blowmotion Real Feel Rechargeable Vibrating Male MasturbatorT3 Approved badge

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The best Fleshlight alternative from Lovehoney

Reasons to buy

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Stimulating vibration patterns
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Great feeling inner
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Subtle, abstract design

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Bit of a nightmare to clean
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Perhaps not the most durable

Lovehoney makes a wide range of excellent sex toys, including the pioneering Blowmotion range, aimed at men. Our pick of the bunch is the Real Feel Male Masturbator, which might look like a Fleshlight on the outside, but has a number of tricks in that subtle, plain casing. The internal canal has a range of interesting textures, but the real star of the show is the vibrations, which are adjustable in intensity, and pack a serious punch when dialed up. The one downside our tester found was that it's not the easiest to clean, and the inner doesn't look like it'll withstand too much battering. But otherwise, this toy really hits the spot.

Head to our full Blowmotion Real Feel Rechargeable Vibrating Male Masturbator review (opens in new tab) to find out more.

Arcwave Voy stroker sex toyT3 Approved badge

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2. Arcwave Voy

The best stroker toy

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Reasons to buy

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Premium feel
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Adjustable to fit
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Feels great to use

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Makes weird noises
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Perhaps too wide for some

It's open-ended, so a stroker rather than a true Fleshlight, which is why the Arcwave Voy sits slightly further down this list, because otherwise we're huge fans. Tidy, discreet and high quality, this toy has a simple but very effective design. Twist a ring on its top edge to adjust the tightness and internal feel between eight settings. In our Arcwave Voy review (opens in new tab), our tester found it more enjoyable to use that just about any other toy they'd tried. It's not too tight but each end has a slightly different diameter, which means you can rotate it to add pressure where you want it. We expect it to last a long time, and it's easy to keep clean, too. 

As with all Fleshlights and similar, preferences vary from person to person, and that's the case with the Arcwave Voy. In the Lovehoney reviews (opens in new tab), there are plenty who rave about how good it feels, but also some for whom the design didn't quite hit the spot. Many comment that they like the discreet and (relatively speaking) stylish design. The suggestion you use this with plenty of lube is backed up by multiple customers.

Tenga 3D ModuleT3 Approved badge

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3. Tenga 3D Module

The best Tenga toy for strong sensations

Reasons to buy

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Stealth appearance
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Antibacterial
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Great for heavier stimulation

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Highly unusual

Tenga's 3D range is, like many Tenga toys (including the Geo below) about making the most of the fact that you're using a toy. Everything in the range is built of textures not found in nature, as it were, and while the incredibly geometric Module might be slightly more angular than, say, the twisty Spiral or Zen entries in the line, those who are looking for a little more stimulation will absolutely enjoy this. 

It offers up a combination of protruding ridges and inverted caverns, the latter of which act as interesting suction points, and Tenga's antibacterial elastomer material is soft enough that you won't feel too tender afterwards. Do use generous amounts of lube, though (see the best lube (opens in new tab) for options).

When inverted and placed in the stand to dry, it's almost artistic - not something you can necessarily say for every masturbation aid out there - and those not in the know will have no idea of its true purpose. That could be useful, depending on your situation, but do come up with a plausible explanation just in case.

Lovehoney Head Master Vibrating Blow Job StrokerT3 Approved badge

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4. Lovehoney Head Master Vibrating Blow Job Stroker

The best masturbation aid for vibration sensations on a budget

Reasons to buy

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Very affordable
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Easy to clean
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Perfect for foreplay

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Not the most technologically advanced

If you don't like suction - and many do find it uncomfortable, particularly when things get more intense - an open-ended device is probably a good idea. Perhaps it's odd that Lovehoney's budget-priced blowjob stroker, also available without the vibrator for only a tenner, doesn't form a seal, but it's shorter than some, so its open end both offers extra space and opportunities to focus on the base of the penis without overstimulating the glans - and it opens up some interesting blow job possibilities, too.

The vibrator isn't particularly technologically advanced, as you might imagine at the price, but it's easy enough to switch on and off when the mood takes you, and you can remove it when you're cleaning under the tap. The texture within should be far more pleasant than the slightly fearsome picture above might suggest, too. Make sure you're using plenty of water-based lube and you'll get on just fine.

Be sure to check our Lovehoney discount codes (opens in new tab) before you buy.

Tenga Geo fleshlight alternativeT3 Approved badge

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5. Tenga Geo

Geometric fun that's almost sculptural

Reasons to buy

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Plenty of options
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Should last a while
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Looks pretty neat when inverted

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Pricey

Oh, Tenga. You never fail to arouse and amuse. Here, the company takes the unusual shapes it seems so enamoured with and applies them to the outside - and, once you've inverted it for play, the inside - of a spherical elastomer toy, made extra stretchy so you can really get up close and personal with it.

The Geo comes in three designs: there's the wavy Aqua, with its undulating lines and ridges; the more complex Coral, which offers a vast number of tight corners to get stuck into; and the downright geometric Glacier, which should offer something else entirely.

The Geo range is a lot more expensive than Tenga's popular selection of Eggs, but it also has the benefit of longevity. A Geo should, if properly cleaned and cared for, last for as many sessions as you need it. Do be sure to use a good lube, though, lest things get a little sticky.

Myhixel I fleshlight alternativeT3 Approved badge

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6. Myhixel I

A very competent toy, and a great training aid too

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All the functions you might want
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Adjustable suction
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App training could be fun – or useful

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Not exactly discreet

The Myhixel I isn't sold specifically on its benefits as a male masturbation toy, though all the relevant boxes are ticked in that department. It's clearly the right shape, there's a soft textured inner, an incorporated vibrator, variable suction with an open-ended cap, and even self heating. If you're looking for a do-it-all toy, this is the one.

But it's not just a toy, it's a tool aimed at improving your sexual well being. The Myhixel I can pair to your phone, at which point you can participate in one of two programs. Play MED is for those suffering from premature ejaculation and, as well as including a consultation with a sex therapist, it gamifies the process of training your physical and psychological arousal triggers with eight stages of stimulation to give you a little extra staying power. Play TR, the cheaper option, is the next stage up, with longer levels for those who already have a handle on ejaculatory control.

Lelo F1s Developer's Kit fleshlight toyT3 Approved badge

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7. Lelo F1s Developer’s Kit Red

This app-controlled male masturbator uses AI to enhance your play

Reasons to buy

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Range of functions
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Great for endurance
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Tracks performance

Reasons to avoid

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Big

Lelo has some significant prowess in the female sex toy department (the Soraya 2 is our top pick for the best vibrator (opens in new tab), after all) so it should come as no surprise that this big step into the male market is something special. Equal parts masturbation aid (with a washable spiral-textured silicone sleeve viewable through a window), endurance trainer, performance tracker and pleasure giver, the Lelo F1s promises some highly unique sensations.

It includes both vibration functions and the company’s SenSonic tech, which fires ultrasonic waves all around the penis. All of this is monitored by a series of ten sensors and can, if you choose, be controlled automatically by an AI ‘cruise control’ engine. Lelo is even releasing a software developers kit (SDK) so that the code-savvy among you can develop your own pleasure apps for your new favourite masturbation toy.

Tenga Egg Hard Boiled Pack fleshlight alternativeT3 Approved badge

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8. Tenga Egg Hard Boiled Pack

Six experiences in one handy box

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Lots to choose from
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Super-compact
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Something totally different

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Disposable

Tenga's tendency, as you may have gathered, is towards the more weird and experimental side of masturbation, and this six-pack of the company's Eggs – packaged in an actual egg box, because why not – offers a half dozen different experiences.

Crack one open and you'll find a small, squishy, and very stretchy toy inside, with the Hard Boiled pack using Tenga's stronger elastomer for a slightly more intense experience. Each egg has a different texture – Thunder is covered in little lightning bolts, Surfer has a ridged wave pattern, and so on. A real variety pack, then, though some don't care for the feeling of stretching a toy over the penis, and some textures are likely to be more effective than others.

The real downside is that these are designed for one-time use. You may get slightly longer life out of them if you're careful with cleaning, but Tenga Eggs definitely don't have the staying power of more fully-featured toys.

What kinds of Fleshlights are there?

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'Fleshlight' has become something of a genericised trademark, given that it was the brand that really kickstarted the craze for male sex toys. But while there are a whole bunch of non-Fleshlight toys on the market, the company itself has plenty to offer in terms of variety.

The traditional Fleshlight design consists of a soft inner made of Fleshlight's SuperSkin material, inside a harder plastic case with an opening at the bottom for suction adjustment. That's the core of the majority of the company's products, but they very massively in terms of the way that design is applied: there are different openings, different canal textures, and different materials to try out. 

The range has plenty of anatomical reproductions, with vagina, mouth and anus openings designed for straight, gay or curious enjoyment. Fleshlight has also reproduced the parts of various porn stars of both orientations, which might help you get a bit closer to your favourite adult material. 

The point of a Fleshlight is to explore, and it naturally follows that there's a whole line of Fleshlight options which ignore realism in favour of pleasure. This includes options like the Flight Pilot, which has an opening designed specifically to just feel awesome, and the compact convenience of items like the Fleshskins Grip and the Quickshot.

And yes, Fleshlight is not the only fruit. There are male masturbators from other companies that take things even further: Tenga's range trends towards the geometric, so it's a great choice if you're looking for something more interesting, and others like MyHixel and Lelo are pushing the envelope in guy toys more in the electronic direction. 

How we test Fleshlights

Wherever possible, we request a sample of the latest Fleshlight or Fleshlight-style toy to test out properly by our experts. Reviewing is done by experienced sex toy reviewers who have used a range of Fleshlights and other male toys over the years and know what makes a great toy. Not only do we see how they perform on their own or with a partner, but we also see what the cleaning process is like and if it travels well... we cover all the basics!

Where we aren't able to get hold of a Fleshlight to test personally, but feel it's significant enough to include in a guide, we'll research around the product and read what other customers say about it, to put together a balanced blurb for you to make your decision based on. See how we test at T3 (opens in new tab) for more.

James is T3's sex toy and male wellness expert who's been exploring the topic of sexual happiness for a decade. He knows it's not what you've got, it's how you use it – and how clean you keep it.