Best Fleshlight 2020: including the best Tenga toy for men

There's no need to miss out when you can take home one of the best Fleshlight or Tenga toys

Best Fleshlight
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Fleshlights, Tenga toys, or to give them at least one of their non-branded names, male masturbation aids, are the most popular sex toy for men, and for good reason. There's nothing closer to simulating penetrative sex, which is why the best Fleshlights sell by the bucket load.

Whether it's exploring a specific fantasy, helping to increase staying power, playing with a partner or just having a good time solo, a Fleshlight or Tenga toy is the perfect sex toy for men – and there's something out there for every man.

They're traditionally rather discrete (the name comes from their outward similarity to a flashlight) though some might be best tucked away in a drawer. Fleshlights are also surprisingly sturdy and long lasting. Some can even be used with condoms.

 Choosing the best Fleshlight 

Undoubtedly, choice number one is what you want to feel; among the best Fleshlight masturbation aids are those moulded for straight and for gay sex, replicating a whole host of wonderful experiences. Look at the texture of the inner sleeve, the tightness of the outer, and the length to ensure you get something that suits the penis in question.

Cleaning is an obvious concern, but this usually isn't an issue no matter which brand you choose. Remove the sleeve from the outer shell, run hot water through it, and let it dry – that's it. 

There's more you can do, though: Fleshlight's Renewing Powder helps reduce the tacky feeling of the Superskin material after washing, and specialist cleaners like Fleshlight's own Fleshwash Sex Toy Cleaner are good for a thorough wash – don't use soap, as it can affect the sleeve material.

Even with the best Fleshlights, you'll need a little lubricant to make everything work well. Pick up something water-based (anything else can damage the sleeve) and apply liberally inside, outside, and on the penis. It's also worth warming the insert before use, and while you can get specialist tools for this, letting it rest for a while in warm water is usually enough.

If you want to get technology involved, some Fleshlight-esque toys allow the insertion of a small vibrator into them. There are even high-tech alternatives that do a whole lot more – and they're a lot classier than you might think.

 The best fleshlights to buy now 

Best Fleshlight: Fleshlight Flight Pilot

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1. Fleshlight Flight: Pilot

The best Fleshlight for everyone

Reasons to buy
+ Super-soft inner + Stealth packaging + Universal opening + Adjustable suction 

Our top pick for the best Fleshlight is a best-seller and for very good reason. The company has taken its original model and refined every aspect, starting from the super-discrete outer and working all the way through. The feel of the inner is softer than before, with a uniquely textured canal which promises some interesting experiences.

Clear material and a non-anatomical opening means this is more the stuff of your fantasies than a replication of anything real – it's suitable for any man, whatever their tastes. And there's plenty of room for experimentation, with a twist base which can alter the level of suction as you play.

Best Fleshlight: Lelo F1s Developer's Kit

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2. Lelo F1s Developer’s Kit Red

The best Fleshlight for smart sensations

Reasons to buy
+Truly smart+Range of functions+Great for endurance+Tracks performance

Lelo has some significant prowess in the female sex toy department (the Soraya 2 is our top vibrator, after all) so it should come as no surprise that this big step into the male market is something special. 

Equal parts masturbation aid (with a washable spiral-textured silicone sleeve viewable through a window), endurance trainer, performance tracker and pleasure giver, the Lelo F1s promises some highly unique sensations.

It includes both vibration functions and the company’s SenSonic tech which fires ultrasonic waves all around the penis, all of which is monitored by a series of ten sensors and can, if you choose, be controlled automatically by an AI ‘cruise control’ engine.

Lelo is even set to release an SDK so the code-savvy can develop their own pleasure apps for it. That’s next-level stuff.

Best Fleshlight: Fleshlight Go Torque

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3. Fleshlight Go Torque

A superb Fleshlight for partner play

Reasons to buy
+Translucent materials +Distinct sections +More compact +Adjustable suction 

Amongst the most accommodating male sex toys around, with a generous 9 inches of length to its bumpy canal, the frosted, translucent Torque is absolutely perfect for a little partner play given that it offers an exciting view of what's going on inside.

Unlike many, there are a number of individual sections all along its sleeve, offering distinct sensations depending on how far you take it.

That see-through case isn't, by design, the most discreet (you'll want to hide it well when not in use) although it's a tad smaller than most.

The transparent inner, with a tight gender-free 5mm opening which Fleshlight describes as 'cyclonic', is still made of Fleshlight's much-loved SuperSkin material so you won't be losing any sensation. 

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4. Tenga Spinner

Best for those looking for a new twist

Reasons to buy
+Easy cleaning+Exciting action+Unusual textures+Easy to dry

A different take on Tenga’s often out-there designs, here, with a masturbator that employs one of three soft geometric patterns around its inner canal. Take your pick from the triangular Tetra, hexagonal Hexa and, er, shell-shaped Shell designs.

The twist, as it were, is the coloured spring-like apparatus around the outside of the Spinner, which causes it to twist as it’s moved up and down. Gripping the base or the tip changes the pattern for some interesting variety.

The Spinner is easy to clean by simply running water through it, and there’s a drying base included to ensure it’s completely water-free before you add any lubricant; that’s something you’ll definitely need, because this is certainly on the tighter end of these devices.

Best Fleshlight: Thrust Pro Ultra Zoe

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5. Thrust Pro Ultra Zoey

The best Fleshlight for beginners

Reasons to buy
+ Great price + Highly varied canal + Quick adjustments + Vibrator compatible 

Reasonably priced it may be, but Thrust's super-soft vagina masturbator is highly popular, and a great first step if you're not yet ready to invest in the more expensive best Fleshlights on offer. 

In addition to the varied canal, which is packed with bumps and ridges, there's a small hole on the side of the outer casing which can be covered to quickly increase suction, and space at the base of the sleeve itself for a bullet vibrator if you're taking things to the next level.

Do note, though, that there's no lube included, so you'll need to pick some up.

Best Fleshlight: Tenga Flip Hole

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6. Tenga Flip Hole

A Fleshlight rival that's good for varied masturbation

Reasons to buy
+ Complex interior + Easy to clean + Extra pressure buttons + Various textures 

Available in a range of colours with varying textures and tightness (with the Black, the tightest, noted as perhaps a little too snug for many), Tenga's Flip Hole is a slightly different take on the standard formula. 

The whole case flips open for cleaning and to give you a clear view of what lurks inside, and when it's clipped shut there's a series of buttons on the hard outer case. Squeeze them in use, and they can help increase pressure on certain key areas.

Best Fleshlight: Fleshlight Quickshot Vantage

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7. Fleshlight Quickshot Vantage

The best Fleshlight for travel use

Reasons to buy
+ Works well with a partner + Multiple modes + Open-ended + Reversible 

Deviating from the standard form factor, Fleshlight's Quickshot is an open-ended device that's much smaller and perfect for travel.

You can leave one cap on and use it in the same way as a traditional fleshlight, with varying suction depending on how tight the end cap is applied, but remove both and it becomes much more flexible.

Flip it over to vary the way it feels, remove the outer ring for a looser experience, or really take advantage of the shorter straight-through inner canal when playing with a partner.

Best Fleshlight: Fleshlight Girls & Fleshlight Fleshjack Boys

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8. Fleshlight Girls & Fleshjack Boys

A Fleshlight with interchangeable sleeves

Reasons to buy
+ Realistic outers + Option of vagina or anus + Varied inner experiences + Switchable inners 

If you're looking for something truly anatomical, Fleshlight has the answer. The company has licensed and moulded realistic replicas of many porn stars, both men and women, and applied them to their traditional structure.

Each of these, in addition to that true-to-life outer, carries a one of a vast array of unique inner canals for a different experience. Fleshlight also sells just the inners on their own, if you're interested in creating a collection.

If a fleshlight is your route to indulging a fantasy, there's a host of names on offer, so whether it's Riley Reid and Alexis Texas or Kevin Warhol and Brent Corrigan, you'll find someting – or someone – to suit.