Best sex toys 2020: Sexual happiness and a whole lot of fun

We run down the best sex toys around to help you and your partner have the best time possible

best sex toys: Lelo
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On your own, with a loved one, whether you're looking to spice things up or just experiment a little, the best sex toys can make a huge difference to life between the sheets. It's especially important to keep things fresh while we're all spending so much time under the same roof, so our run down of the best sex toys is dedicated to those gadgets which can add a little sparkle to your relationships – whatever combination of genders you've got going on.

It's all about finding out what you desire and how you want to experience it: if you want something that feels like the real deal, there are options (and even more in our guides to the best dildos and best male masturbators); if you'd prefer something a bit more out-there, we've got that too. Want your sexual experience remote controlled by a willing partner? Lay back. Just starting out with toys? Don't worry, we've got you. Need a new vibrator? We've got a whole best vibrator guide for that, but there's plenty here that'll pulse out some fun sensations.

So here comes our selection of the best sex toys around today. Enjoy – in as many ways as you can.

The best sex toys to buy now

best sex toys: Iroha Yuki

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1. Iroha Yuki

Soft sensations in a very unusual vibrator

Size: 82 x 57 x 38mm
Weight: 87g
Waterproofing: Up to 50cm
Running time: Around 90 minutes
Reasons to buy
+Discrete design+Soft, smooth feel+Multiple vibration settings

Made for women, but usable whatever relationship you're in, you certainly won't struggle to find ways to use the Yuki to make things more exciting. It's a palm-sized blob that brings to mind stress toys more readily than it does sex toys, and indeed it has a certain level of squishiness to it. If you're not a fan of rigid toys, that's a big plus, and this is totally non-threatening and looks absolutely nothing like a penis – again, a plus for many.

No points for guessing that it vibrates, with Iroha packing in three different vibration strengths and a pulse mode to keep things interesting. While you can certainly use its semi-insertable tip to keep yourself happy when going solo, it's perfect for tracing lines of pleasure onto a partner in whatever spot they'd like. The whole thing is simple to operate, with two controls on the bottom, and it charges on a custom stand, included. Plus, let's face it, those looks don't scream 'sex toy' whatsoever: a bonus if you're employing the services of a cleaner...

best sex toys: Lelo Ora 3

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2. Lelo Ora 3

A high-tech tongue twister

Size: 83.5 x 88 x 43.5mm
USB Rechargeable: yes
Material: Silicone
Max noise level: 50dB
Reasons to buy
+User-friendly design+Innovative technology+Good-looking toy

The Lelo Ora 3 is a chic, palm-sized sex toy designed to recreate the sensation of oral sex via a rotating, vibrating nub with 10 movement settings to choose from. It comes from Swedish company Lelo, which is known for its cutting-edge of sex toy tech and stylish devices (in fact the Ora 2, won a Cannes Lion creativity award). The Ora 3 offers a firmer, faster and more precise rotating motion. 

It also makes use of the same SenseTouch technology as its predecessors, which means that the device responds to pressure – the harder you push, the more intense the sensations. The ergonomic design means it's comfortable to hold and move around as required. It looks pretty discreet, too, so no awkward reveal at airport security!

best sex toys: Lovehoney Butt Tingler

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3. Lovehoney Butt Tingler

Good vibrations from this beginner butt plug

Length: 5 inches
Insertable Length: 3.5 inches
Circumference: 3.5 inches
Battery: 1 x AAA
Reasons to buy
+Vibrating options +Smooth and soft

For those yet to explore the intense sensations of anal play, Lovehoney’s Butt Tingler is a petite, smoothly curved bulb that makes a perfect starter sex toy. If desired, the Tingler can also provide good vibrations as it can be used as a battery-powered bullet with three speeds and seven different patterns. The T-shaped flared end will ensure it stays in place and is easy to remove, with no risk of a red-faced trip to A&E. Remember to use a lube when exploring anal toys – check our guide to the best lubes if you're not sure which one to buy.

best sex toys: Lelo Earl

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4. Lelo Earl

The gold standard of prostate play

Size: 122 x 32 x 25mm
Diameter: 27mm
Insertable length: 90mm
Weight: 221g
Reasons to buy
+Looks beautiful+Reaches deep+Basically indestructible
Reasons to avoid
-Outrageously expensive-Presumably you won't be wearing those matching cufflinks for long...

Lelo makes a lot of toys, but if you're looking to add an air of gentlemanly sophistication to proceedings, there's nothing finer than the Earl. It comes with a set of matching cufflinks, for goodness' sake. That's a new one on us.

Made either of stainless steel or, if you're really dialling up the opulence of your anal play, coated in 24-karat gold, the Earl is on the more slimline end of butt-play toys, and reaches 3.5 inches in, enough for it to be a great tool for prostate massage but equally viable for enjoyment by those without a prostate. The metal material makes it suitable for temperature play (you can pop it in the fridge, though we'd definitely keep it out of the freezer), and the outer ring means it can be pulled in and out with ease, or left in place with confidence.

The one downside is the price. Even in its stainless steel variant the Earl will set you back an eye-watering amount; thankfully the Lelo Bob is the same shape in a silicone form, with the same finger-friendly outer ring. Crucially, it costs a far more reasonable amount.

best sex toys: Dominix Cock Ring

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5. Dominix Cock Ring

A cock ring for those who like heavy metal

Diameter: 1.75 inches
Material: Stainless steel
Weight: 163g
Reasons to buy
+Long lasting+Well reviewed+Heavy weight 

Most cock rings are made from stretchy rubber and are easy to pull on and off. Dominix’s stainless steel hoop, however, is an altogether more weighty experience. Once in position, tucked behind the testicles, the smooth surface and weight of the ring pushes the genitals forward creating a significant effect on the look, feel and duration of the erection. This ring is designed for those who already have some experience as putting it on takes some dexterity at first, but users swear by the intensity of the experience. Once worn, never regretted.

best sex toys: We-Vibe Unite 2

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6. We-Vibe Unite 2

It takes two to tango, and this sex toy is designed for couples

Circumference: 3 inches
Length: 3 inches
Insertable length: 2.5 inches
Power: USB rechargeable
Material: Silicone
Reasons to buy
+Hands-free stimulation+Idea for couples+9 vibrating patterns

We-Vibe specialises in sex toys for couples and the Unite 2 is the latest in its vibrators designed for two. Unite 2 is inserted during sex to add intensity to the orgasm, and for hands-free clitoral and penis stimulation. Its non-intimidating size and smooth texture makes it easy to insert and incredibly comfortable to wear. There are nine vibrating patterns, which can be operated either by pressing the button on the front of the vibrator or by your partner using the remote control. An easy, fun way to enjoy sex toy play with your partner – just don’t over-lube this delicate toy.

Fleshlight Flight Pilot

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7. Fleshlight Flight Pilot Male Masturbator

A male masturbator designed to send you skywards

Canal diameter: 0.5 inches
Sleeve length: 6.5 inches
Reasons to buy
+Realistic feel + Adjustable suction 

At this juncture we could easily make a joke about joining the mile-high club, but we will resist. Instead we will let you know about the textured canal of the Fleshlight, which is lined with ridges and bumps for a realistic feel. The suction can be intensified or lessened via the twist base. An ergonomically designed, easy to hold exterior and good-quality construction help make this sex toy a best seller. It’s also pretty discreet, making it a good travel partner, and can be used hands-free with the Fleshlight Hands-Free Adaptor (purchased separately). Not quite right for you? Explore our rundown of the best fleshlights right now.

best sex toys: 50 Shades of Grey greedy girl

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8. Fifty Shades of Grey Greedy Girl

A lux-feeling sex toy with a generous selection of vibration patterns

Length: 9.5 inches
Insertable length: 5.5 inches
Circumference: 4.75 inches
Power: USB rechargeable
Material: Silicone
Reasons to buy
+Lots of speeds and patterns+Sturdy, luxurious quality+Motors in the shaft and 'ears'

This range of sex toys inspired by the sexual adventures of Fifty Shades of Grey’s Anastasia Steele, has proved to be nearly as popular as the books. Despite a slightly cringey name, the Greedy Girl makes our list of the best sex toys thanks to its double-motor design – one in the shaft and one in the ‘rabbit ears’ designed for clitoral stimulation – and 15 speeds and patterns, which is more than many vibrators. It's also sturdy and we were impressed by the power of the vibrations. The texture of the toy feels luxurious, too.

best sex toys: Lelo Hugo

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9. Lelo Hugo

The vibrating prostate pleaser that massages from top to bottom

Material: Body safe silicone
Size: 104 x 107 x 41mm
Diameter: 32.5mm
Power: USB rechargeable
Reasons to buy
+Remote controlled+Medium size to fit most men+Waterproof

The Lelo Hugo is a sleek-looking prostate massager with two vibrating motors – one positioned at the tip and one at the base – that can be adjusted using a dinky remote control. There are more intensity options than many other toys. Sculpted to give maximum pleasure and sized to accommodate most men, this is a male sex toy that can be enjoyed as a couple or solo. Lelo is a premium sex-toy producer. The slightly higher price point reflects the quality of the materials used and the level of research that it invests in finding toys that hit just the right mark for a great climax. The company says that Hugo can increase the male climax by 33 per cent (you’ll have to experiment for yourself to put this to the test).

best sex toys: Lovehoney Desire Luxury Knicker Vibrator

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10. Lovehoney Desire Luxury Knicker Vibrator

Enjoy remote-controlled thrills

Circumference: 4.5 inches
Length: 4 inches
Material: silicone
Remote control: 1 x CR2032 battery
Reasons to buy
+Quiet and discreet+Comfortable to wear+Comes in a neat toy case
Reasons to avoid
-Limited remote range

If handing over the reins is what gives you a buzz, these briefs will float your boat. Lovehoney's Desire Luxury Knickers are designed to house a discreet, saddle-shaped vibrator that can be operated by remote control at a distance of eight metres. An awkward buzzing noise is an unwanted side effect of remote-control sex toys, but discretion is the watchword here, so the vibrator is designed to be very quiet, even at higher settings. 

The vibrator itself has 12 speeds and eight different settings so you or your lover can choose the level of intensity depending on when and where it’s most appropriate, or inappropriate as the case may be! Made from silicone, the vibrator is soft and sleek and very comfortable to wear. Designed with ribbon ties, the briefs are made to fit most sizes and are easily adjustable. The set comes in a neat bag with a small opening for discreet USB charging too.

best sex toys: Je Joue Ami Kegel balls

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11. Je Joue Ami Kegel Set

Exercise your pelvic floor, and have fun at the same time

Beginner: weight 47g, 4.3 inch girth
Intermediate: weight 78g, 3.9 inch girth
Advanced: weight 106g, 3.6 inch girth
Circumference: 4.25 inches
Length: 3.5 inches
Material: Silicone
Reasons to buy
+Varying weights to try+Easy to remove+Soft, vegan silicone

Kegel balls are essential for women's sexual wellness. These small, weighted balls are inserted in the vagina and designed to strengthen pelvic floor muscles – the Kegel muscles grip the balls to keep them in position, while simultaneously stimulating pleasant sensations. This Je Joue Ami Kegel trio come in varying weights; you will naturally progress to the heavier weight as your muscles strengthen. This set is made with body-safe silicone, which is beautifully soft. The balls are vegan and the ergonomic retrieval loops make these nice and easy to remove.