6 tricks to avoid overheating when sharing a bed with a partner

Sleep Scientist shares her advice for beating the heat whilst sharing a bed with another sweaty body this summer

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Summer temperatures are well and truly here, and when it's warm at night, sharing a bed can make the situation worse. The optimal bedroom temperature is around 19-21°C; going much above that can have a big impact on how easily you fall asleep and how good the quality of sleep you get is. It's part of the reason why all the best mattress companies invest so much in temperature regulation properties.

According to recent studies, those who regularly share a bed with a partner tend to fall asleep faster and enjoy better quality sleep, but bunking up with an extra sweaty body next to you when you're already too hot to sleep isn't the most appealing. 

We asked Theresa Schnorbach, Sleep Scientist at Emma (opens in new tab) for her advice on how to minimise the effects of heat when sharing a bed with a partner. Read on for her top tips, or check out T3's guide to how to sleep in a heatwave if you're in need of more advice. 

1. Don't work out in the evening

When it's hot during the day, you might be tempted to shift your workout to later in the evening, when it's slightly cooler. Theresa warns that this can have a negative impact on sleep. "Physical activity increases your body’s core temperature which will inhibit the cooling down your body needs to do to ready itself for sleep," she explains. She also points out that this can also apply to other nocturnal activities. As an alternative, Theresa suggests working out in the early morning (here's more on when to stop exercising before bed.). 

2. Have a cuddle

5. Have a cuddle

"It may feel like the last thing you want to do if your bodies are hot and sweaty, but a cuddle before bed can help in reducing your core temperature by encouraging your blood vessels to dilate thus losing excessive body heat," says Theresa.

3. Change floors

Heat rises, which means the upper floors of your home might well be warmer than the lower levels. It's not possible for everyone, but if sleeping on a lower floor is an option, that might bring with it more comfortable temperatures. If you don't have a spare room on your ground floor, Theresa suggests setting up your mattress or a blow up bed in the living room. (Our guide to the best camping beds has plenty of comfy, portable options to choose from).

"If you don’t have the space downstairs, then moving your mattress off the bed frame and onto the floor could be another option," she adds.

4. Take a lukewarm shower

"A shower that is too cold will cause the body to sweat again to re-balance the body temperature, but a hot shower will have the same result," says Theresa. Instead, she suggests a lukewarm shower. 

"After showering, try to keep your neck, wrists, elbows and ankles cool. If you keep these pulse points (where your blood flows closer to the surface of the skin) of your body cold, you will feel less hot," she adds. You can also refreshing these areas with a damp cloth or water spray, to help you feel cooler later on in the night.

5. Cool your room during the day

"In a hot environment, your body cannot properly balance its inside-outside temperature, leading to an overall inferior sleep quality," explains Theresa. "To limit the impact of a warm room, prepare for the night time by keeping your sleep environment cool throughout the day; this way you’re not having to fight the heat of the room as well as each other’s bodies."

A good way to do this is to keep windows and curtains / blinds closed during the day. It can also help to turn off any appliances that would otherwise be left on standby.

6. If all else fails, try sleep divorce

There's a growing trend for sleep divorce, which is essentially choosing to sleep separately, so you both get the quality of sleep you need. If the tips above aren't working for you, summer is s good a time as any to try it out. 

"If one or both of you run hot and you’ve tried everything but still can’t shake the heat sleeping next to your partner, then sleeping apart in different locations may provide some relief," suggests Theresa. Remember that it doesn't need to be a permanent solution, and you might only want to do it on really warm nights; whatever works for you as a couple. 

Ruth Hamilton
Ruth Hamilton

Ruth is T3's Outdoors editor, reviewing and writing about everything from camping gear and hiking boots to mountain bikes, drones and paddle boards. To counter all that effort, she also runs the site's Wellness channel, which includes sleep, relaxation, yoga and general wellbeing. She has tested more mattresses than her small flat can handle, and has had to implement a one-in-one-out pillow policy, for fear of getting smothered in the night.